Do you engage in fawning?
1. When I’m provoked, I generally try to appease or placate the other person.
2. I prioritize others’ needs above my own when I sense that they are upset.
3. My childhood included adversity or trauma, such as an abusive family member.
4. If someone seems upset with me, I feel an urge to fix the situation quickly.
5. I avoid expressing my opinion if I think it’ll damage a relationship.
6. If someone provokes me, I push back.
7. Most people seem to be more assertive than I am.
8. I often play the role of ‘peace-keeper’ or ‘fixer.’
9. I tend to please others and seek out their approval.
10. I’m careful to avoid hurting other people’s feelings, even when I feel like I’ve been injured.
11. I act cheerful even when I’m upset.
12. I keep others comfortable, even when it means ignoring my own needs.
13. I feel that people take advantage of me.
14. If I’m frustrated about a situation or another person, I speak up about it.
15. I find it difficult to set limits if I think someone might react negatively.
16. Conflict, or the idea of conflict, makes me feel anxious.
17. I have trouble saying no to people.
18. I love a good, vigorous argument.
19. When conflict arises, I’m more likely to be accommodating than to stand my ground.
20. I spend energy anticipating others’ needs so problems don’t arise.